Let’s talk about something most of us never expected: how complicated Natural Family Planning (NFP) can feel in midlife.
If you’re like me, you’ve walked through pregnancy, postpartum, breastfeeding, and the sleepless nights. You’ve made it through the toddler tantrums and those messy seasons of life when just taking a shower felt like a luxury. And now? Well, you’re in the stage that sneaks up on us—perimenopause.
And girl, it is no joke.
Your kids might be older, your life busier in a different way, and all of a sudden, your body is doing things you don’t recognize. Cycles that once felt predictable are now irregular. Your chart makes zero sense. Your moods swing from one extreme to the other. And you find yourself wondering, “Am I doing this right? Or is this method just not working anymore?”
Let me assure you: you’re not crazy, and you’re not alone.
The New Face of Chart Confusion
One of the biggest challenges I hear from women in this season is chart confusion.
You’ve been practicing NFP for years. You know your body. Or you thought you did. But now ovulation might show up on day 30 instead of day 14. Your fertile signs are inconsistent. You go weeks without a clear pattern. And suddenly, your confidence in interpreting your body’s signals is shaken.
That confusion is real. But it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. It means your body is entering a new phase, and it requires a new lens—and often, a fresh conversation with your instructor.
When we understand that perimenopause is a bridge—not a crisis—we give ourselves grace. You don’t have to stay confused. You’re simply crossing into something new.
It’s Not Just Physical—It’s Emotional and Spiritual Too
The changes we face in midlife go far beyond the physical. NFP at this stage can stir up unexpected emotions:
😥 “I’m not ready to stop having babies, but I know I shouldn’t have more.”
😨 “What if I do get pregnant?”
😢 “I miss that season, even though I was exhausted back then.”
These thoughts swirl around grief and hope, fear and surrender.
It’s the bittersweet beauty of transition.
Your identity as a mother might feel like it’s shifting. The role you’ve played for decades is changing—and it’s okay to mourn that, even while you celebrate what’s ahead.
I like to say, “Grief and gratitude can exist in the same room.”
And in this season, they often do.
The Mindset Work We All Need
I’ve coached so many women who come to me saying, “I thought I was doing fine... until I wasn’t.”
They were charting confidently. Their marriage was steady. Their faith was deep. And then—bam!—midlife hit like a ton of bricks.
Let me be clear: mindset coaching won’t fix your hot flashes.
But it will help you reframe them.
Your body is not betraying you. Your changing cycle is not a curse. You’re not “falling apart.” You’re simply being invited into a new season of wisdom.
Midlife is not the end—it’s a transition into deeper trust, surrendered identity, and God’s unfolding plan for your Act Two.
Let’s Talk About Intimacy
Yes, we’re going there.
Midlife brings changes to our libido, our energy, our bodies—and our marriages. Conversations around intimacy that once felt simple now feel awkward. You may find yourself dreading the topic, or feeling disconnected from your spouse.
You might be abstaining during ovulation, and by the time your body says “now’s the time,” your heart says, “I’m too tired.”
It happens. And you’re not failing because of it.
But don’t avoid these moments—lean into them.
It’s in the vulnerability, the gentle honesty, and the shared surrender that marriages grow. You’re not the same woman you were at 25, and that’s okay. It’s actually beautiful.
Find new ways to connect. Have the hard conversations. Remember that intimacy is about communion, not just chemistry.
What If This Is an Invitation?
What if this season isn’t a punishment—but a holy invitation?
What if your cycle confusion, your emotional overwhelm, and even your body image struggles are all part of God saying, “Let’s take a closer look. Let’s heal the parts of you that have been silent too long. Let’s walk together into a new beginning.”
It’s a 6-week group coaching program for Catholic women just like you—women navigating perimenopause, shifting hormones, cycle confusion, emotional overwhelm, and spiritual longing.
This Program Is for You If:
✅ You’ve practiced NFP for years, but now your chart feels unfamiliar ✅ You feel emotionally off-balance, restless, or disconnected from your body ✅ You want to feel at peace with your changing role as a wife, mother, and woman ✅ You’re craving clarity, community, and Catholic truth ✅ You’re tired of carrying this confusion alone
What You’ll Get:
🌸 Weekly coaching calls to unpack your thoughts and emotions 📓 A beautiful Catholic journal to guide you with Scripture, gratitude, and prayer 🧠 Tools to understand your mindset, hormones, and identity shifts 💬 A safe community of Catholic women walking the same road 🙏 Space to hear God’s voice more clearly in your midlife season
You don’t have to stay overwhelmed. You don’t have to feel stuck in guilt, shame, or silence.
It’s time to step into clarity, confidence, and communion—with God, your body, and your life.
Ready to Join Us?
We begin Monday July 7th. You still have time to sign up.
Let this be the summer you say “yes” to grace. Yes to healing. Yes to living well—right now, in this sacred midlife season.
We’re waiting for you in the red tent. 💜
With love, Mama Jane
Catholic Mindset & Fertility Coach
Wisdom Wellness Coaching